Wednesday, January 25, 2012

The Jinx

Several years ago, I went on a work trip to Korea with my boss. The flight was 18 hours and about 17 hours in, my boss turned to me and exclaimed, “This has been a great flight! We haven’t had any turbulence!” No sooner were the words out of his mouth than I was responding, “Are you crazy??!! How can you say such a thing? Don’t you know about The Jinx?” Clearly, he had not grown up with a subtle but ever-present superstition coloring his every thought and deed. But, since I did grow up that way—even though I wouldn’t have characterized it as such for most of my life—I was very sensitive to the matter in which he had just doomed our flight with his remarks.  (For the record, the flight landed successfully.)

If his whole life had been spent knocking on wood and mumbling the Yiddish kinna hurra to keep the evil eye at bay, then the words never would have left his mouth and the mere thought would be squelched as instantly as it appeared. This, I know, from experience. I have lived my whole life this way, separated by a generation from the most superstitious of them all—my grandma Theresa. She had our entire family believing that green was an unlucky color. It wasn’t until I discovered the origin of this superstition, sometime after college, that I could embrace the color green in all of its blue-yellowness (or yellow-blueness, depending). How had she come to determine that the color was unlucky? When she was a little girl she had a pretty green dress and she got sick all over that dress. From there on, the color green was to blame. In other family superstition news, my mother told me to never ever put shoes on a table—it’s bad luck—and, so I never have.  And, I never will.

One day, at the end of a workweek, as my coworkers and I were all saying our farewells, I told one of them to “break a leg” with whatever it was she was doing that weekend. Imagine my surprise when she hobbled in the door on Monday on crutches. “I didn’t mean to actually break your leg,” I joked.  The theater tradition of telling someone “break a leg” instead of wishing them good luck is certainly a variation on warding off the evil eye by saying the opposite of what you mean. I even think this way.  For several weeks after her leg injury, I was dubbed “Teen Witch” after some character in a movie, or was it an after school special? I don’t know because I was too old to get the reference, though I was flattered to be referred to as a teen.  More recently, I used this awful power with a thought—harmless as it was—that, “wow, that light bulb in our porch light has never needed to be changed in the entire time we’ve lived in this house”. Like clockwork, the next day, it burned out. Just from the thought of it. Really. It was my fault—I jinxed it with mere thought.

And, that has made me begin to wonder about this year so far which is off to a kind of rocky start. I can’t recall having the thought “2012 is going to be a great year!” or anything of the sort.  And, as years go, it’s certainly not the worst thus far (knock on wood). But, even if I had a bout of fleeting optimism about the upcoming year, I can’t recall being so inconsiderate as to have not contradicted this with a healthy dose of woe to counteract it.  That would have been irresponsible. I wouldn’t do that.  I know better.  Sure, the logical among us aren’t worried about such things. Good things happen and bad things happen, they rationalize. These same people may even think that one has free will over these things. And, I’m not arguing, but…

…it really doesn’t hurt anyone to knock on wood, to keep shoes off the table, and even to avoid wearing green, if that’s what it takes.  I’m not saying that being superstitious is right for everyone. But, I do have some advice: on your return flight from Korea (which somehow takes 24 hours), don’t have a big meal that includes—delicious, though it may be—a copious amount of spicy cabbage, Korean barbecue, and kimchee (more cabbage!) That could really amount to some bad luck, at least for your fellow passengers.  

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Paws for Reflection

A few weeks ago, I became aware of my cat’s mortality. She used up at least one if not a couple of her nine lives.  When we took her to the vet in November, we learned that she has an overactive thyroid for which she is now being treated. And then, out of the blue, at the end of December just three days before Christmas, she had a blood clot in her back leg.

In the middle of the night, she woke us up with her constant cries. She couldn’t put weight on her hind leg and she couldn’t get comfortable. She went up and down the stairs and all over the house, crying in pain.  Rather than having something in her paw or a sprain, we found out that she very likely had a blood clot. So we started treating her for that. The day after Christmas, the blood clot theory was confirmed when her leg swelled up and in response to whatever pain or nerve sensations she was having, she basically chewed through her lower leg to the bone.  She is now on Plavix and doing well—we’re hopeful that we’re saving her leg from being amputated by following a regimen prescribed by the vet. We’re bandaging her leg each day and using honey on alternate days. I’d like to take a moment here to praise the healing powers of honey. The honey, along with the silver sulfadiazine seems to be doing the trick.

Sydney—my cat—is 13 years old and the vet has alerted me that Sydney is now a senior citizen.  This stunned me almost as much as when someone recently referred to me as “middle aged”. Middle aged? Really? That stung and it didn’t help that my response was “What you talkin’ ‘bout, Willis?” But, getting back to Sydney… I should also mention that I have been known to describe her as my soul mate and I don’t mean this in an ironic sense—well, maybe a little. I do believe that you can have more than one soul mate and I don’t mean to offend my other cat, Leroy, or my husband for that matter, but Sydney and I have clicked. We have an understanding that transcends your normal cat/person relationship. 

Sydney had belonged to a friend of mine who adopted her as a kitten. He was moving to an apartment and couldn’t bring a pet so he asked me if I would take her. I was reluctant—wouldn’t that mean making a commitment to a living thing, after all? But, when the friend shrugged and said, “Well, I guess I’ll just leave her by the side of the road”. (He denies ever having said this.) I didn’t hesitate to say I’d take her. He brought her over in her carrier on a rainy and dreary fall evening.  He left almost immediately and this didn’t prove to be such a good introduction for Sydney and me. For the next two weeks, she hid in the basement. She ate the food that I put out for her and used her cat litter, but I basically never saw her except for the one time in the middle of the night when I went into the kitchen and saw her glowing eyes staring at me. We mutually frightened one another and she flew from the counter right over my shoulder before running back to the safety of the basement.

I couldn’t take it any longer. I had to have a healthy human-cat relationship, and this was not it. After several hours together playing tennis one humid summer day, I asked this friend to come back to my house to persuade Sydney to come up from the basement and lead a normal life with me. He called her name and she came up the stairs.  He basically passed the cat master torch to me that afternoon, allowing me to pet her and get her to purr before he left. Then, I realized that I needed to take a shower and feared that this would be the end of my newfound feline friendship. But, as I was taking the shower, she sat on the bathmat and meowed until I came out. From that moment on, we were BFFs.  It turns out that Sydney is about trust. That’s her M.O. and now she trusted that I would be there for her.

And, I am. Still. I love this cat to the point that I am now a one-note character who only talks about her cats.  Since her health scare and the subsequent care that we’ve been administering, it’s also more like I just talk about her and not even my other cat, who is so adorable if not a bit fluffy (or big-boned, depending on how you look at it).  Leroy, it turns out is also a senior citizen, though he’s only 9 years old.  Apart from switching their food to the “senior cat” version, they are now both able to get into the movies with a significant discount.  I’m the only one in the household who regularly gets invitations to join AARP, however. I’m not sure how that keeps happening. I’m laughing it off until I’m eligible for the massive perks of being a member.

Until then, I’ll use my cats’ advancing ages as a reminder that we’re all getting up there but that not all of us have 8 more lives to go.